(#368) Fake, Illegitimate Or Incomplete Information?

June 11, 2017

Just because you find a lot of information does not mean
you have found accurate or credible information

If, as famed architect Frank Lloyd Wright claimed, “An expert is a man who stops thinking because he knows,” then can we say the same for a person who claims one source of information as the fount of all legitimacy and contrary accounts to be illegitimate or “fake”? Has she stopped discerning because she “knows” what is legitimate and what is fake?

More than five years ago, I shot a quick video (see below) outlining four basic considerations when considering information to address an issue or task?

  1. What information do you need for the task at hand?
  2. Where will you find that information?
  3. How will you evaluate the information you find for accuracy and legitimacy?
  4. How will you organize and use the information for your audience?

Can we grow as individuals if we filter what we read, hear, and see through one source (or a number of like-minded sources)?  Are we motivated to grow–or just “be right” even in the face of confounding information?

Do we care?

A friend shared two stories this week.  I doubt they are apocryphal.

  • A neighbor asked my friend where she got her news. My friend rattled off a list of seven or eight sources. Out of hand, the neighbor dismissed the entire list as thoroughly “illegitimate.” When asked what her source of information was, the neighbor mentioned one source. Just one source. It was, according to her, legitimate. End of story. (See numbers two and three, above.)
  • My friend has found the same situation in her college classroom.  No matter the topic,  two camps emerge. Diametrically opposed. Refusing to listen and discuss with the other. Each considering their source(s) of information legitimate and the others’ suspect at the least and fake at the worst.

Is this a sign of intellectual laziness? A lack of critical thinking? Or is this sort of thing nothing new—just magnified because everyone can have a social media platform where we surround ourselves with “likes” and “shares” and then block opposing viewpoints?  (I still remember my mother often warning me (more than fifty years ago) not to speak about politics or religion.) It does seem like today’s volume, as well as the personal vitriol, has been cranked up considerably.

I offered a suggestion to my friend.

  1. Pick two sources of news that generally disagree on issues and stances.
  2. Find one current news story on which both of these sources present a similar account of the issue or event.
  3. Print both stories without any attribution (nothing that would identify the sources).
  4. Ask your friend (or students) to identify the “illegitimate source” based solely on the content presented. If both stories are drawing the same conclusion then how can the argument hold that a particular source is always illegitimate?

Perhaps you could do it as well to at least start a rational conversation. Start with common ground and move from there.

Video recommendation for the week.

Just because you find information does not mean you have credible information.

Make it an inspiring week and H.T.R.B. as needed.

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(c) 2017. Steve Piscitelli. All rights reserved.

(#270) Have You Spent Time With Ida Ownly?

July 26, 2015

A relationship with Ida Ownly has no future
other than one of contrition, remorse, disappointment, and heartbreak

You know Ida Ownly, don’t you?  I’m sure you (like me) have spent some time with her. And when we do it generally leads to regret, second guessing, teeth-gnashing, angst and stress.

If you have been spending time with Ida I suggest you end your relationship immediately. Otherwise she will own you.

I know a lot of students and career folks who have spent time with her (Ida really gets around!).  Like the students who wasted a semester only to fail a course.  You might hear them say:

  • If Ida Ownly spent more time studying, I wouldn’t be on academic probation.

The employee who did not prepare adequately for her major presentation to the perspective client:

  • If Ida Ownly done my homework, I would have landed that account.

ida ownly

Perhaps you have heard people (or yourself) say:

  • If Ida Ownly saved more I could have retired now.
  • If Ida Ownly called a cab I wouldn’t have that DUI.
  • If Ida Ownly paid attention to my diet and exercise I wouldn’t be twenty pounds overweight.
  • If Ida Ownly only flossed I’d have all my teeth.
  • If Ida Ownly quit smoking I would have saved thousands of dollars (and lung capacity).
  • If Ida Ownly worked less and played more I would have a more contented life
  • If Ida Ownly played less and worked more I would have a more satisfying career.
  • If Ida Ownly paid more attention to my partner/kids/friends/community….
  • If Ida Ownly said….
  • If Ida Ownly done….
  • If Ida Ownly known ….

Ida Ownly, indeed.  A relationship with Ida Ownly (“I had only”) has no future—other than one of contrition, remorse, disappointment, and heartbreak.

Why not make this week the beginning of a new relationship with Ida’s sister, Imma?

Video recommendation of the week:

A musical version of the question “If I Had Only Known.”

Imma Ownly going to do what moves my life in healthy, ethical and courageous directions. Imma Ownly going to live a life of integrity and passion.

imma ownly

What’s your first step? Who will it be for you–Ida or Imma?

Make it a wonderful week—H.T.R.B. as needed.

I am venturing into the realm of podcasting.  Check out my first episode at “Powerful (Mindful) Preparation. Powerful Presentation.” Information on future podcasts can be found on my podcast page.

Check out my website (http://www.stevepiscitelli.com/programs.html) for programming information as well as details about upcoming webinars (http://www.stevepiscitelli.com/webinars).

My books Choices for College Success (3rd edition) and Study Skills: Do I Really Need This Stuff?  (3rd edition) are published by Pearson Education.

(c) 2015. Steve Piscitelli. All rights reserved.


(#229) Where Can You Declutter Your Life?

October 12, 2014

Where have you allowed clutter to invade your life?

When you hear the word clutter, what pops into your mind?  A desk with piles upon piles of paper?  Your kid’s bedroom? Your bedroom? The kitchen sink? The backseat of your car? The garage? Your sock drawer? The bottom of your closet?

Often, we associate clutter—mess and disorganization—with material stuff.  And as the short list above attests, such a connection can be apt. Any number of physical locations can become black holes for the condition I call “drop and leave.”

Image: BillLongshaw/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image: BillLongshaw/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Clutter can cost us in time lost looking for something, money spent (for items we thought we had lost), money lost (because of wasted productivity) and stress endured dealing with the overwhelming mess that feels like a hurricane about to slam ashore.

And it can interfere with our true priorities as it distracts us from the important things in our lives.

Clutter seeps into our lives in so many other ways. And each can create stress, lost productivity, and strained relationships (personal and business). Where has clutter been allowed to invade your life?  Consider that our days can easily become cluttered with:

  • Acquisitions (obsessed with buying—while unused items get lost in the back of the closet?)
  • Appointments (does a full calendar really equate to a meaningful day?)
  • Choices (distracted by things that do not get you to your goals?)
  • Financial worries (overextended and underfunded?)
  • Global anxieties (constantly paying attention to “alerts” and “breaking news”?)
  • Health obsessions (neurotic about calorie counting or time on the treadmill?)
  • Numbing agents (one more latte, wine or hour of television?)
  • Promises to others (can’t say no?)
  • Promises to yourself (do you overestimate what you can do in a day, week or month?)
  • Relationships (success and connections measured by the number of social media “friends”?)
  • Technology (three devices going at once and thus not really where you currently are?)

What else clutters your life?

If you want to de-clutter, start with by asking yourself some straight-forward questions:

  • Is all this stuff making me happy? How do I know?
  • What are my core values? Does the clutter add to or detract from these values? One of the most poignant gut-check questions I read recently was in a post about balanced life:  “Why did we have kids if you’re too busy to see them?” Ouch!
  • Are you holding on to stuff because you “might” use it in the future? Really? When was the last time you used that set of dishes or golf clubs?
  • Look at the list above (and anything else you added to it). What small clutter item can you start on today? Then, where can you move to tomorrow? Think large and long-term. Act small and short-term.

If you can’t get a handle on your clutter, find a coach, mentor or expert who can.  A friend (and former student) of mine has created such a business where they act as “personal trainers for your stuff.” Find a trainer for your situation.

Whatever it takes, wrestle control of your life back to where it belongs—with you.

Video recommendation for the week:

Delbert McClinton sings to us about the challenges of too much stuff!

Make it a wonderful week—H.T.R.B. as needed.

Check out my website (http://www.stevepiscitelli.com/programs.html) for programming information as well as details about upcoming webinars  (http://www.stevepiscitelli.com/webinars).

Information on my newest book, Choices for College Success (3rd ed.), can be found at Pearson Education.

(c) 2014. Steve Piscitelli. All rights reserved.


(#214) Check Your Baggage at the Door

June 29, 2014

Rather than living by the creed of F.O.M.O (Fear Of Missing Out),
why not embrace J.O.M.O (Joy Of Missing Out)?

The story goes that when Quincy Jones was producing the song “We Are the World” with some of the biggest names in the music business, he posted a sign on the door: Check your ego at the door.  He helped guide those stars to make one the most enduring songs of the era.

Video recommendation for the week:

A video with a beautiful message. For extra credit: Can you name all of the performers?

For the past few years, at the beginning of each semester, I have a photo of a piece of luggage on the classroom screen. It’s a simple metaphor for a powerful challenge.

As I explain it to my students, we all have issues to deal with daily. Personal and professional.  We all have our own dramas, demons, and distractions contending for our time and attention.  God only knows my students do.  From single parents with multiple jobs to those who are functionally homeless to those with dysfunctional financial and personal relationships, I wonder how they even get out of bed in the morning.  They have a lot vying for the attention—and potentially robbing them of their opportunities in the classroom and around campus.

Image: Keerati/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image: Keerati/

Thus, I challenge them to Check your baggage at the door.  I remind them that once they walk through the classroom door it is their time.  Don’t let anyone rob that time. I ask my students to turn off their phones during class.  Besides the interruption and distraction phone usage can have in and on the class, it diverts attention from the conversations, relationships and lessons of the class.

Rather than living by the creed of F.O.M.O (Fear Of Missing Out) why not embrace J.O.M.O (Joy Of Missing Out)?

Think about it. F.O.M.O. generally relates to someone else’s agenda, not yours. When we constantly check updates and texts, generally it is to see what someone else is doing in his/her life.  Why not focus on your life?  You are worth it.

Perhaps this would be an effective reminder as we go through our coming week. Can we check our baggage, even if for a brief while, to help us focus, rejuvenate, and appreciate what we have right in front of us at the given moment?  This does not denigrate the important and vital issues in our lives but it will help compartmentalize some time for us.

The baggage, more than likely, will be waiting for us.  The time we have given to ourselves and those we are with, however, might just give us (and others) the strength to carry it further.

I once read of a custom (Japanese, I believe) that called for a host to pour a glass wine and let it overflow into a saucer.  The host then gives the saucer and extra wine to a guest.  The lesson: “Be the overflowing vessel…find a way to make someone feel good.”

Perhaps when you check your baggage for a time you will be the vessel that helps yourself and others to feel better.

Embrace J.O.M.O!  Make it a better day for you and those around you!

Make it a wonderful week—H.T.R.B. as needed.

Check out my website (http://www.stevepiscitelli.com/programs.html) for programming information as well as details about upcoming webinars  (http://www.stevepiscitelli.com/webinars).

Information on my newest book, Choices for College Success (3rd ed.), can be found at Pearson Education.

(c) 2014. Steve Piscitelli. All rights reserved.


(#169) How Bad Do You Want It?

August 18, 2013

So, will your dream remain a liketodo or will you turn it into a willtodo?
Practice these four strategies.

Within the next few weeks, college students around the country will report to their respective campuses.  With dreams in their eyes, they have a major choice in front of them:  “What will they do to reach those dreams?”  The “do” is important.  Many people (students and others) have a long list of “liketodos”—but they come up short on the “willtodos.”

Video recommendation for the week:

Pay attention to your vocabulary. Three demotivating words.

You see, the dreaming is the easy part. Anyone can set a goal. When we cut to the chase, though, it comes down to whether or not we take the action needed to achieve the goal.  Are we in it for the long run—or will we fold like the proverbial cheap beach chair as soon as the going gets a little dicey? Setting goals is easy. Achieving them requires effort.

Remember that the intersection of “coulda-woulda-shoulda” is “I didn’t!”

In a recent post, Seth Godin asked a simple question: “Will I see you tomorrow?” That is, is there fortitude behind the dream?

I shared four key strategies with the Early College students this week. I previously posted these under the title of it takes more than academics to succeed in college. I want to revisit these for anyone moving toward a dream. You would do well to practice them. Take a moment right now.  Reflect on one of your dreams. Apply the following:

1. Relationships. A cornerstone of success will be the healthy and nutritious connections you make.  Mentors, coaches, teachers, accountability partners—whatever you call them, build a solid support network. Jettison the toxic folks. Find people who know what you want to know and do what you would like to do.  Be a sponge!  Soak up the wisdom. Be curious! Ask questions. Grow.

2. Resources. Identify resources you have at your disposal. Know the resources you still need. Your relationships will help you here.  For college students, there are so many resources on your campus dedicated to making you successful on your dream journey. You have to do two things: find them and use them.

Image: Stuart Miles/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image: Stuart Miles/

3. Priorities. Know what is non-negotiable in your life. What are the must-haves and must-dos on your way to the dream? Don’t betray yourself or your passion.  Move with purpose. Use your relationships and resources to help guide you.  Avoid the quick fix; the easy-way out; the short cuts. Your dream will require effort.

4. Choices.  More specifically, pay attention to the choices you make concerning your well-being and life balance.  Your health (physical, emotional, spiritual, social, intellectual, and financial) needs to be one of those non-negotiables in your life.

So, will your dream remain a liketodo or will you turn it into a willtodo?  How bad do you want it?

Choose well. Live well. Be well—and H.T.R.B. as needed!

On Friday, September 13, I will offer my next webinar. The topic: Supporting Our Adjunct Faculty: The Forgotten Teachers of Academia.   Take advantage of this complementary offering.  Click here to register now for the webinar.  Or go to my website for registration information. 

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post. Please share it (and any of the archived posts on this site) with friends and colleagues. You also can follow me on Twitter, LinkedIn, and Facebook. If you get a chance, visit my Facebook page and join in–or start–a conversation (www.facebook.com/stevepiscitelli).  If you have suggestions for future posts, leave a comment. Make it a wonderful week!

 ©2013. Steve Piscitelli

(#136) A Blogger’s Retrospective: 2012 in Review

December 30, 2012

 Consider this a look back as we move toward the New Year.
Perhaps a nugget or two will provide inspiration.
Thank you for your continued support and comments.

In May of 2010 I made the decision to begin my first blog. I had 3 goals:

  • Experience a new (for me) aspect of social media
  • Develop and flesh out new ideas
  • Provide something of value—not just another cyber rant.

I believe I have accomplished the first and the second. It is up to you whether I have accomplished the third. My blog posts contain videos, book recommendations and summaries, questions to ponder, and always a takeaway to apply immediately to life.  I have stayed true to my commitment to publish one blog post per week. This post marks the 136th consecutive week.

This year saw nearly 7,000 views of my weekly blog posts. Thank you for reading, commenting, and sharing.  I would love to hear what you found of value on this blog. And, please feel free to share any ideas you have for future posts.

For this last-of-the-year post, I have returned to each of the previous 51 posts I have made to this blog in 2012—and provided a statement about each. I have linked each title to the actual blog should you want to read it or re-read it.

Consider this a look back as we move toward the New Year. Perhaps a nugget or two will provide inspiration. Thank you for your continued support and comments.

Video recommendation for the week:

All the best to you and your family and your friends as you enjoy a wonderful 2013!  May you give and receive heartfelt hugs along the way!

84.  Your Small Choices Create Your Larger Life.  *Our life is made up of little choices we make each day of our lives. While each choice on its own may appear small, they add up—they compound over time to create who we are. There is a wonderful video demonstration that accompanies this blog post.

85.  Study Skills: Do I Really Need This Stuff?. *Study skills are really life skills.

86.  A Model for Critical Thinking *Critical thinkers recognize assumptions and avoid confirmation bias.

87.  Priority Management: Are You Doing the Right Things—Or Are You Just Doing Stuff? *We cannot stop time, create time, or control time. But we all can effectively manage our priorities.

88.  Information Literacy: Not All Information is Created Equally *What we have to remember is that the explosion of information does not necessarily equate to an explosion of credible knowledge.

89.  Set Your Goals and S.O.A.R. * You can write the most specific and realistic and timely goal you can think of—but it will be useless (a fantasy) without ACTION. You have to put the “do” behind the “want to.”

90.  Using Learning Preferences to Make Connections * Know your learning style—and make it work for you.

91.  Success Strategies for the Classroom—and the Business World * Here are success strategies that pertain to the business world as much as they do to our classrooms. Learn them. Internalize them. Grow with them

92.  Making Connections in the Classroom and the Boardroom* Research tells us that as students build connections (relationships) between what they learn in class, read in their books, and experience in their lives, they will improve their learning.

93.  SQ4R: Strategic Reading Strategies for the Classroom and Beyond *Reading remains a crucial skill. In fact, being able to read well is perhaps even more important today than it was in the past.

94.  A Good Memory Makes Connections *If I had to give just one tip for improving memory it would be to find connections—make the material (whatever it might be) relevant to your life.

95.  Test-Prep: Connecting Classroom Success to Career Success and Life Success*When you effectively use test-preparation strategies, you are not only getting ready for the exam at hand, you are building life-long skills. Relevant and connected.

96.  Is Civility Part of Your D.N.A.? *Civility does not mean we all agree. It does mean, though, that we accept each other’s humanity and dignity as a person.

97.  Study Skills: A Baker’s Dozen*This is an overview of the twelve topics above.  While ambition and potential are important characteristics, they are useless without initiative. Our life is the sum of the many small choices we make and do each day. Make each day count.

98.  Fitness: A Better Version of Me * When it comes to your health be “responsibly selfish!”
Treat yourself with respect.

99.   [dreams]  * “I never got this far in my dream.”

100.  Milestones: Endpoints or Checkpoints? * Milestones remind me of the possibilities in life.

Photo: Maureen Buik

Photo: Maureen Buik

101. Ayekoo! *I commend these students for a job well done! They have inspired me.

102.  What is the Purpose of Education? * Craftsmen would not continue to use tired and worn out tools that keep them from creating a master product. Why would I do less for my students?

103. Someone Will Help You—I Guess * Big box stores were out hustled and out managed by a
small operation that was happy to see me and quick to
provide a service.

104.  Baby Boomers Reminisce: Then But Not Now * I asked the Baby Boomers to chime in about what existed “then but not now.”

105.  Building a Community: The Power of Reflection * There is a basic need to be heard, to be listened to, to share, and to build a community.

106. A Memo to My Future Me* Take a moment and write to yourself today.
What do you want your “future me” to look like, act like, feel like?

107. If You Don’t Want a Target on Your BUTT, Put a Target on Your BUT! * Excuses can rob us of our dreams and put us on a fast path to irrelevancy.

108. Lifelong Learning *As John Dewy reminded us, “Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself.”

109. Striving for the WOW Factor! Tips for Presenters* I am always striving for the WOW factor!
The people with whom I work deserve that.

110. Integrity or Adding to the Illusion? * Is integrity an all or nothing proposition? How do you measure integrity? Is it on a scale? Can you have it some days and lack it on others?

111.  Why Do You Do What You Do? * Are we just muddling through life in a job, for instance, or do we wake up each morning passionate about the calling that has beckoned us?

112. Creating Experiences * Think of the coming weeks and months. What experiences (small or big) have you planned that will create wonderful memories for you and those you love?

113. Creativity Takes Work * Creativity also embraces all the disappointments and frustrations
on the road to a new way of doing things. They are part of the process.

114.  What You SAY and What You DO * Where is your line in the sand? What will you definitely not negotiate away—and what things will you or do you decide are not values to you?

115. Purpose and Passion * Our paycheck may not come from a calling but then not every calling is defined by a paycheck.

116. Simple Strategies for Adjustment and Transition to the College Culture* We can get much more from life if we pay attention to our priorities…the choices belong to us.

117. Say What You Mean. Mean What You Say. Do What You Say.*A simplified version of a Ralph Waldo Emerson quote might guide us the best, “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”


Photo: Laurie Piscitelli

118. You Never Know Who is in the Audience. * We just never know the impact we have. And, we need to remind ourselves of the impact others have on our lives.

119. You Might Have to Slow Down to Go Faster. * At times we have to turn off the thinking and let the ideas come and go; let them mix with the experiences.

120. Are You Intentional About Your Growth? * While I cannot control or manage the ticking of the clock, I can manage my choices. I manage my priorities and, thus, I manage my life.

121.  Living With Purpose: Are You Betraying Yourself? * If what we do does not align with our purpose (what makes us feel whole or complete or meaningful)then we need to pause and ask ourselves some questions.

122. What’s Your Story?* What are you leaving behind? What are you building each day?
It’s one thing to be successful. But are you significant?

123.  How Do I Measure Up?* Relevance, engagement, and passion. Our students deserve it.
Our community deserves it.

124. When a Culture of Yes is Really a Culture of No  *  Rather than nurture the people on their bus, weak leaders throw them under the bus

125. What’s Important?  *  Are we living a life that makes us unrecognizable to those
who love us–and maybe even unrecognizable to ourselves?

126. Have You Looked at Your BUT Lately? * The first step is to recognize (be aware) of which BUT is taking control. Then make the decision to kiss your BUT goodbye!

127. Recognizing the Good Things in Life * Why not recognize the good things that happen around us, show gratitude, and encourage those behaviors? Maybe in our own small way we can help
create an environment of remarkable consistency and growth.

128. What is Your Brand? * When it comes to branding ourselves obvious characteristics present themselves: How we dress; how we smile (or don’t); how we speak; how we look someone in the eye (or don’t).

129. Identify What You Can Influence * Today, you have the ability to have a positive impact
on your little area of the world. Tomorrow, broaden that circle.

130.  Making Your Life Work! * When it comes to New Year’s Resolutions we find lots of
big intentions—but minimal action.

131. Penny at a Time * Whether it’s wealth-building or a weight-loss program or writing your first book have a plan, take specific steps each day, and remember that you will realize your dreams one step at a time.

132. Relevance, Relationships, and Rainbows * As a teacher I can excite, energize, and educate.
But can anyone really motivate another person?

133. Advice from My Scholars: How to Succeed in Life * Advice from my students to entering first-year college students.

134. Marshmallows, Teaching and Learning* This exercise allowed them to collaborate, actively search for, and apply (critically think about) concepts and principles in an engaging and memorable manner.

135.  2012: The Year of Gratitude* Silent gratitude isn’t very much use to anyone. Read a summary of a year-long gratitude project.

136. A Blogger’s Retrospective: 2012 in Review*Here it is. The annual review of the year’s titles for this blog.

Enjoy your week—and H.T.R.B. as needed!

Details for my 2013 webinar series have been announced.  The theme for the coming year is THE YEAR OF THE DREAM! Check my website for the most up-to-date information.  The first webinar, Priority Management: Doing the Right Stuff at the Right Time, is scheduled for January 23, 2013 at 3:00 p.m. Click here  for registration information.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post. Please share it (and any of the archived posts on this site) along to friends and colleagues. You can also follow me on Twitter, LinkedIn, and Facebook. If you get a chance, visit my Facebook page and join in–or start–a conversation (www.facebook.com/stevepiscitelli). Also, if you have suggestions for future posts, leave a comment. Have a wonderful week!

©2012. Steve Piscitelli.


(#125) What’s Important?

October 14, 2012

Are we living a life that makes us unrecognizable to those
who love us–and maybe even unrecognizable to ourselves?

For their midterm exam, my student success classes wrote about their dreams and the actions they have taken this semester to get closer to their dreams.  It‘s a great exercise for them and I always love reading their thoughts.  For some of my students it’s one of the rare moments someone has asked (and listened to) them about their dreams. For others, it allows them to articulate their progress.  For all, they get to reflect on their journey.


As I read their essays this weekend, they reminded me of the important things in life--and how it is easy to lose one’s way.  One of my students wrote: I am leaving behind a life of self-doubt, self hate, confusion and under achievement. One doesn’t realize the impact that living a life of selfishness does to those that care. Our lives have somewhat of a domino effect on those around us…

While a few students go through the motions with the exam (simply write to fulfill a course assignment), most, like the student above, take the opportunity to look at their lives and talk about what is important to them. 

Coincidentally, my wife and I watched The Preacher’s Wife this weekend. Maybe it was my students’ papers. Maybe it is the ongoing litany of events affecting my college. Maybe I was ready for a reminder message. Whatever the reason, there were a couple of lines in the movie that stood out to me.

“I don’t even know who you are anymore.” (The preacher’s wife to the preacher)

 “Look at the real price before you close the deal…listen to your heart.” (Dudley the Angel)


For me the take away is–once again–to be true to ourselves in whatever we do. Do not betray who we really are–for any reason. Are we living a life that makes us unrecognizable to those who love us–and maybe even unrecognizable to ourselves? We have to maintain our integrity regardless of those around us who push their agendas at the expense of our well-being and the expense of the well-being of our greater community.

When I speak to audiences, I like to end with a call to action.  Something that requires them to apply what we have examined in the program.   So, here is your (and my) call to action:  Ask–and remind–yourself what is important in your life. Do your actions each day reflect what is important? Perhaps it is remaining in touch with people who mean what they say.  Or hugging someone a little longer. Or your family, your country, and your God. Have you taken a specific step toward your dream? Do you still have a dream? What one thing can you do today that will reinforce what is important in your life? Repeat tomorrow.

Video recommendation for the week:

And, as my students remind me, believe in your dreams.  Don’t let anyone take them from you

Enjoy your week—and H.T.R.B.as needed!

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