(Issue #532) For What It’s Worth


Nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong.
-Stephen Stills-

 What consequences evolve when lines drawn in the sand become immovable walls?

We could say the walls reflect the non-negotiable values that people stand up for and believe. A moral code.  Opposing walls are built with their non-negotiables to protect and shout out their moral code. Each wall fortified to never be breached, challenged, or deconstructed in light of new evidence. No bridges allowed.

Photo by ©Steve Piscitelli.

The Merriam Webster dictionary defines an ideologue as “an often blindly partisan advocate or adherent of a particular ideology.” The chance for conversation is minimized or totally shut down.

One writer puts it like this:

I’ve come to believe that listening requires a suspension of certainty –
at least long enough to hear what the other person is saying
and attempt to empathize with  where they are coming from.
It also requires some curiosity about perspectives different from our own.

While certainty can help us navigate our journey and stand up for justice, challenges exist.  Certainty leads to a lack of curiosity. Certainty leads to confirmation bias. Certainty shuts down collaboration across different spectrums. Certainty creates walls.

Photo by Steve Piscitelli

Certainty can lead to dichotomous thinking that shuts down conversation, and at its darkest, yields vitriol, hate, and lack of community.

If one side is always right and the other sides always wrong, how do we get to the stage of curiosity, listening, growth, and change? Where does the opening in the wall occur? Or does an open door become equated with weakness never to be tolerated?

For what it’s worth, if we suspend certainty and listen with the intent to hear, we all might learn. As Buffalo Springfield sang decades ago, “Nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong.”


Video recommendation for the week:

Buffalo Springfield performs “For What It’s Worth”


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #531) Questioning Normal


What is it? What was it? Will it return?
And maybe more importantly, should it return as it was?

During the last four months, certain words and phrases have become commonplace references. Like:

  • Abundance of caution
  • Crazy times
  • Essential
  • Flattening the curve
  • The curve
  • The numbers today
  • Uncertain
  • Unprecedented

One of the words that we hear often is normal. As in,

  • When we return to normal.
  • Will we return to normal?
  • Waiting for the new normal.

A recent article by Rachel Khong poses the following:

Was normal ever good?
Or was normal actually complacency and negligence?

In other words, question the notion of normal. What is it? What was it? Will it return? And maybe more importantly, should it return as it was?

This does not make light of any of the hardships and tragedies that have occurred and affected/traumatized people over the course of the pandemic. I feel certain that (at some level) nurses, for one, would like to go back to what normal was before their hospitals lacked beds, resources, and PPEs to protect themselves and by extension their patients and loved ones.  For those who have lost wages, jobs, housing, investments, and healthcare, a return to what was normal might mean a place to sleep, food on the table, and a doctor’s visit. For the families who have lost loved ones, a new normal may never present itself.

Hard to argue with any of that. And I am not.  Life has been upended. No question.

The two questions Khong presented (above) take us in another direction.  Especially her second question. Does normal become an escape route for complacency and negligence?

Can comfortable sabotage our growth?

Are we tempted to hang on to a status quo that may not have been working for us any longer?  Do we avoid the heavy lifting of community-improvement because, after all, “normal” seemed “rather good” for a long time?  Why don’t we just tweak this or that for a new normal?

Do our goals represent a sense of complacency and negligence to address hard issues? Do you work with a community organization that keeps on doing the same thing meeting after meeting, month after month, year after year because that has become the normal? After all, the consensus may be, that’s how we do things around here, fella!

Or do you challenge the normal with new habits that confront staid ways and encourage growth?

How does your future look—and what needs to be done to get there?


Video recommendation for the week:

Bill Gates’ view on returning to a “normal life.”


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #530) The Lesson of the Handyman


Getting your stuff done!

This blog has addressed the topic of procrastination.  Whether in the boardroom, faculty room, classroom, church hall, town hall, or community center, it can derail plans, goals, and dreams.  We do well to remind ourselves that we don’t wait for a goal—we work for the goal.

This week, a handyman reminded me of this truism. Or, I should say, the lack of a handyman.

I am not a handyman-type.  I can do basic home maintenance but not much more. I do stay on top of what needs to be done in our home and on our property.  If I find some wood rot, I fix it. Same for a leaky toilet or hot tub maintenance. If a problem arises that is too much for my meager skills, I call someone.  Because of this, we have never watched a small problem grow into a large and expensive one. My wife and I have been fortunate over our years as homeowners to have had some skilled and dependable handymen and craftsmen come to our assistance.

Recently, we found ourselves in the position of needing a new “go-to” handyman. Let’s say it has been a hit or miss journey. One good experience, one almost good experience, and three misses. As I deal with those frustrations (and continue to build a list of contractors/handymen-women to interview), I am thankful that I learned along the way (from past handymen) to stay on top of repairs and renovations. Not just think about repairs. Not just cogitate on a renovation. Act on those ideas.

We did not kick the can down the road with an excuse of “That wood rot can wait. It’s not that bad.”  We stayed on it. We fixed it. And thus, it helps keep our home in good shape.  We didn’t think of repairing it. We repaired it.

That proves prescient now as we look for a new handyman/woman in what is proving to be a drawn out process.

And it is a metaphor for goal achievement. No matter how small or seemingly insignificant, what can you do today to advance your plans?

Example: You want to write a book but you don’t have a publisher. So…you wait. And nothing happens. As Hugh Prather said, “If the desire to write a book is not accompanied by the actual writing, then the desire is not to write.”

Our handyman hiccups do not mean we do not need the service. It means we need to continue our search. And we must continue our work and get our stuff done.

Just like our goals.


Video recommendation for the week:

An oldie but a goodie. Are you getting your stuff done?


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #529) Time to Revisit Our Big BUTs


Recognize which BUT is taking control.
Then kiss your BUT goodbye!

I have written on this blog before about excuses and how they can derail our plans and dreams. (See here, here, and here for instance.)

For this week’s blog, let’s revisit the Top Ten Big BUTs—with an addition.

Yes, our BUTs have continued to grow.

Eleven BUTs that have the potential to keep your life and any group you attempt to lead in neutral–or maybe slip into reverse.  After a while, the BUTs become noise. Obstacles to any meaningful progress.

The first step is to recognize (be aware of) how your BUT is taking control.  Then make the decision to kiss your BUT goodbye! And, if your organizational management problem is due to the Big BUTs in charge, it might be time to consider a leadership change. Effective leaders listen and learn. If you hear a lot of BUTs, question the listening and learning that is going on. Probably negligible.

Frank Lloyd Wright claimed, “An expert is a man who stops thinking because he knows.” And a big BUT is a powerful block to clear and progressive thinking.

Top Big BUTs

  • The I-Know-Better-Than-You BUT. Have you ever been in a meeting when you were asked for ideas and suggestions? You and your colleagues offered them. And then the leader (poor manager?) had to tell you all why those would never work. “That’s not a bad idea BUT we first must do this.” OR “OK. BUT that will never work.”  Can you say no conversation and lack of collaboration. None. At. All.

  • The Fearful BUT. This can be a paralyzing BUT.  The fear factors can be many.  The economy, opinions of people, lack of confidence, a desire to remain “in charge,” attempting a new project, and lack of support (financial, social, or occupational) can cause fear to raise its head.
  • The Fatal Resignation BUT. This BUT plays out for people who have convinced themselves that their life (or the organizational life) “is what it is” and nothing will ever change. You know, let’s just keep doing what we’ve been doing because to make a change would require rewriting our autobiography–and we are quite comfortable with our autobiography, thank you!
  • The Whiny BUT.  This can end up being a close cousin to the Fatal Resignation BUT.  “I would do it BUT, you don’t understand what I go through.” Or “Easy for you to do what you want. I would, too, BUT everyone is against me.”  Yes, we don’t live in another person’s skin. And yes, we don’t know what they have to live with. And no, this does not make light of difficult situations.  The point is, if all we do is whine about the adversity we face nothing will change. Think of a major decision confronting your organization. Is this BUT prancing around to stop forward movement?
  • The Self-Serving BUT.  This person will move forward BUT only if you do something for him or her. Action is predicated on what the payback will be.

  • The Time BUT.  Many of my former students had a lot on their plates.  Between child care, transportation challenges, work, relationship issues, and adjusting to college expectations, they could easily fall into this trap. “I would work with a tutor in the Success Center BUT I just don’t have the time.”  The problem, though, is not time. It is priority management.  Don’t blame time. Review your priorities.
  • The Blaming BUT. We have all heard this cognitive trap. “It’s not my fault!  I would have been on time BUT the traffic on that bridge is always backed up.”  Really? If it is always backed up, then why don’t you leave earlier? “I would BUT I can’t get up in time.”  Why don’t you go to bed earlier? “I have tried BUT you just don’t understand!” (See Whiny BUT and/or Fatalistic Resignation BUT above.)
  • The Rationalizing BUT.  This person has a reason why she is not doing what she knows she needs to do–or what she says she would like to do.  Her intentions might be great.  She has difficulty translating intentions into action.  “I know I should lose ten pounds BUT I am under a lot of stress now. I’ll do it later.” This person is always waiting for the perfect situation to present itself.   (See Fear BUT, Time BUT, and Money BUT.)

Photo by Steve Piscitelli.

  • The Lying BUT.This person has no intention of moving forward or changing or doing what he says he will do.  He can use any of the other nine BUTs on this list as a way to cover his true intentions.
  • The Money BUT. This can be closely tied with the Rationalizing BUT.  “I would start my exercise program today BUT I don’t have the money for gym membership.” Maybe you could just begin walking around the neighborhood? “I would BUT I need a good pair of walking shoes.”  (See Rationalizing BUT.)
  • The Lazy BUT. This is pretty basic.  Pick any of the BUTs above, strip away the reasoning and get to the core: This person is not motivated to change. The couch is comfortable. The jeans are not that  tight.  I don’t like my job BUT it is just too much trouble to go back to school or look for other employment.

Video recommendation for the week:

Effective leaders know they have to let go of their BUTs and lead. Here are five characteristics real leaders I worked with exhibited. And I very seldom witnessed them clinging to their BUTs.


Which BUTs are affecting your life, your organization, your progress, and your dreams?  What can you do about that today?

Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

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(Issue #528) Writer’s Block? Probably Not.


There have been days when I felt like I could not even
write out a grocery shopping list.

Inspired this week by Anne Lamott. One a quote. And one a book chapter.

First the chapter from her work Bird by Bird. For writers looking for tips, strategies, and excuse busters from a writing pro, check out this book. I’ve read it a few times and refer to it often.

We’ve all heard of writer’s block. The so-called wall that keeps us from getting anything on the paper. You sit at the keyboard or with pen in hand…and…nothing comes. Or say you tell yourself. You beat yourself up. Or worse, you quit the project.

Writer’s block can come due to exhaustion, perfectionism, lack of discipline, fear, or  insecurity.  It might be due to the belief that meaningful words should magically flow from your mind to your fingertips. If they don’t, then, you reason, you must be flawed and need to put away your quill for good.

Lamott writes about awful first drafts and the need—the importance—to get something on paper despite how pathetic it may look and sound to you.  I have found this a sound strategy with my most-recent project.  With the exception of my last book, I have written textbooks for students or facilitation books for professional and community development. Now I have moved (wandered?) into a writing arena that requires a much different skill set.

There have been days when I felt like I could not even write out a grocery shopping list. Nothing flows. The easy thing to do? Quit.  Lamott reminds us that “almost all good writing begins with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere.”

In other words, don’t let the voice in your ear deter you.  Keep moving. Get something down. And then revise. And learn. And continue. If you don’t, that great novel, song, poem, community initiative, or home renovation plan may never take hold. Ever. Lost for fear.

And that brings me to the Lamott quote:

“Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written, or you didn’t go swimming in those warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen.”

In deed.


Video Recommendations for the Week

A short video clip where Lamott speaks to the need to be consistent and push through.


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #527) Criticism and Your Counterfactual


 “I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be,
but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see.”

― 
Douglas Pagels, author—

An American journalist observed that “a critic is one who walks down the hill, after the battle is over, and shoots the wounded.”

If you spend any time on social media, watching the “news,” or attending community gatherings (in person or virtually), you have witnessed your share of critics and their volleys. Some attempt to educate; some to pontificate; some to initiate; and, still others, to irritate.

Photo by Steve Piscitelli. ©2019

Perhaps you have seen some of the posts that say something to the effect of, “If you ever wondered what you might have done during slavery, the Holocaust, [fill in the blank], you’re doing it now.”

One writer judged (criticized?) these “exhortations” this way,

…I’m almost certain such exhortations make people less likely to take constructive action. It’s the sort of message that makes you feel as if the only response to a crisis … is to quit your job and dedicate your life, and life savings, to the cause. Or at least to spend all of your free time on it. Suddenly, whatever little thing you might have actually done – a small donation here, a protest march or petition-signing there – seems so pathetic as to be worthless. So you end up doing less, in response to a serious situation, than if you hadn’t been persuaded it was so serious.

A more useful message, though it lacks the drama of the original, would be to “choose the right counterfactual”. In other words, compare your actions with what you otherwise might have done – not some ideal world in which you became Mahatma Gandhi. If the real choice is between a small action and nothing, that small action is far from pathetic….Ask what you might have done today, if this issue had never arisen. And then make sure you do at least a little more than that.

What or where is your counterfactual? That is, rather than comparing your actions to someone else’s idealized version of what “should” be done, where and how can you make a difference?


Video Recommendations for the Week

“Still I Rise” by Maya Angelou


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #526) Grateful For …


I had to stop this week and remind myself….

Do a Google search for “how the pandemic has change our lives” and you will come up with more than 143 million hits.  It’s become cliché to speak about the “new normal.” Here in June, we long for what we might have considered mundane back in March.

We miss what was and no longer is.

Life has changed, and will continue to do so, on many levels.  (Another cliché.)

We read about and view scenes of what “reopening” looks like. Some encouraging signs. Many not so.

And with people hurting from the challenges associated with unemployment, housing, healthcare, discrimination, indifference, and more, it can become disingenuous to say, “consider all you have to be grateful for.” Almost dismissive.

But…

…I had to stop this week and remind myself of the people, places, events, and insights for which I am grateful. Those things that remind me that I am fortunate. I had to (and will have to continue to) remind myself. I offer the following list as one that has worked for me. It may not for you. It does not dismiss the experiences of those who hurt at a much deeper level than I do. The list is incomplete. It, however, is a reminder for me to stop and consider that I am grateful for:

Photo by Steve Piscitelli

  • My wife
  • My canine companion
  • Friends
  • Where I live
  • The Source that makes all things possible
  • Sunrises
  • Former students who have become my teachers
  • People who have spoken up about and acted on injustices
  • Health
  • The community service projects I get to do
  • My writing time
  • Exercise in our “Garnasium” (that is, the “garage” that holds our “gymnasium.” 😊)
  • Biking around my community
  • Civility
  • Respect
  • Teachers
  • The first responders who perform service for the entire community
  • Caring neighbors
  • Healthy food and drink
  • Meditation time
  • Experiences past
  • Experiences to come
  • Community builders
  • People who listen
  • The beach
  • The park
  • Choice
  • Today
  • Yesterday
  • Tomorrow

Video Recommendations for the Week

Remember and Hope.


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #525) Ethical Wills


Connect generations to come by sharing questions,
messages, challenges, accomplishments, connections, and experiences.
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(Issue #524) HTRB: Resetting the Reset


While hitting the reset button has merit,
we may need to reset our view of what reset means.
Will the reset, in this case,
mean a complete redesign of societal institutions?


Video Recommendation for the Week

Bob Dylan’s prescient words (recorded in 1963; released in 1964) included:

“…And don’t criticize
What you can’t understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is rapidly agin’
Please get out of the new one
If you can’t lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin‘”


Every week I end my blog post with the suggestion to “Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.” A reminder to stop, pause, and recalibrate your journey.

I first introduced the HTRB (Hit The Reset Button) concept on this blog in October of 2011. A student of mine that semester inspired the writing.

Fast forward almost nine years, and our world finds us in situations unimagined just a few months ago.  From a world-wide pandemic to global demonstrations and protests, we live in a time that seems to have turned all that was “normal routine” on its head.  And with each passing day, we understand changes will come our way that end “the way we used to do things around here.”

While hitting the reset button has merit, we may need to reset our view of what reset means.

For instance, the local coffee shop I visit used to have straws, stirrers, napkins, and sugar packets sitting by the coffee spigots. Today all of those items are behind the counter and have to be handed to each customer by a cashier.  As this business has reopened (reset for customers to come into the building), the straws et. al. will not move back to their previous locations.  Reset in this instance means moving to a new position—a new normal as has become the go-to lingo.  In the grand scheme of things, a tiny adjustment. Still, a reset of the reset.

Also consider things like: Will we go back to touch screens as we know them in public locations? Will our local grocery store chain reset to a time when plexiglass did not separate the customer from the cashier?  Will we go back to handshakes when greeting people?

And look at the depth, scope, and magnitude of the “Black Lives Matter” demonstrations.  Do you think our society (local and global) will go back (reset) to the day before the protests and move forward? Or do you think this reset will be a complete upheaval of what had been accepted and expected practices?

Will the reset, in this case, mean a complete redesign of societal institutions? In what ways will our interactions reset themselves? How will the nation reset? Where is the button located, who does the pushing, and what role do the rest of his have in the eventual resetting?

Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

 

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(Issue #523) Giving, Receiving, and Gratitude


It could change the world for one person.

 With all the dislocations and dysfunctions the pandemic has wrought, aren’t you encouraged and energized by the acts of graciousness you have read about or witnessed?

Photo by Steve Piscitelli

Like the pizza maker sending 300+ pizzas per day to healthcare workers in New York. And that act of giving led to the owner receiving help from his landlord.

Like pen pals that have befriended residents in nursing/retirement/assisted-living homes. A similar program exists in the Community Hospice (Jacksonville, Florida) for which Roxie and I volunteer.

And like the Puppuccino Man.

In his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Deepak Chopra speaks about the “dynamic exchange” of giving and receiving.

The best way to put the LAW OF GIVING into operation—to start the whole process of circulation—is to make a decision that any time you come into contact with anyone, you will give them something…a flower, a compliment, or a prayer. In fact, the most powerful forms of giving are non-material…When you meet someone, you can silently send them a blessing…. (p. 33)

We do not (or, at least, should not) give in order to receive. We do so to circulate joy.  Leo Buscaglia said something to the effect that if you give a gift expecting a return, then what you really gave was a loan.

Small acts of kindness and assistance can have a bigger impact than we know in another person’s life.

“Helping one person may not change the world,
but it could change the world for that one person.”
(attribution unknown)

And it could change the world of the one giving as well.

Photo ©Steve Piscitelli. 2019


Video Recommendation for the Week

The cycle of giving, receiving, and gratitude.


Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.

My new book has been released.
eBook ($2.99) Paperback ($9.99). Click here.

Roxie Looks for Purpose Beyond the Biscuit.

Well, actually, my dog Roxie gets top billing on the author page for this work. Without her, there would be no story.
Click here for more information about the book.

In the meantime, check out her blog.

And you can still order:

  • My book, Community as a Safe Place to Land (2019), (print and e-book) is available on More information (including seven free podcast episodes that spotlight the seven core values highlighted in the book) at www.stevepiscitelli.com.
  • Check out my book Stories about Teaching, Learning, and Resilience: No Need to be an Island (2017). It has been adopted for teaching, learning, and coaching purposes. I conducted (September 2019) a half-day workshop for a community college’s new faculty onboarding program using the scenarios in this book. Contact me if you and your team are interested in doing the same. The accompanying videos would serve to stimulate community-building conversations at the beginning of a meeting.

My podcasts can be found at The Growth and Resilience Network®.

You will find more about what I do at www.stevepiscitelli.com.

©2020. Steve Piscitelli
The Growth and Resilience Network®

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