A culmination of all those choices. Some small.
Some large. All help create the person you are becoming.
Would you, if you could, go back in time and change the choices that you made? I know. A wide open question and open to lots of interpretation. (I’m not thinking about those 1970’s leisure suits you might have bought…though I can remember that red crushed faux velvet suit I wore in 1974. Insert hand against forehead here!)
In response to an earlier blog post, a friend shared a Mercyme music video with me last week. (I have posted it in the Video Recommendation section below.) The songwriter is writing a letter to his younger self. At one point he considers, “Even though I love this crazy life, sometimes I wish it were a smoother ride….”
While there have been some rough, tumultuous, and gut-wrenching times, I don’t think I would change my choices. Yes, some of the stuff was a real pain in the posterior. Sure, if I had the “power” to go back, I would be tempted to take back an ill-advised word, change a self-congratulatory action, or rethink an ill-conceived plan. And while I might wish I had had more tact, diplomacy, and grace, I am willing to concede that all of those choices for good or bad made me who I am today.
I own the choices. I look at their culmination in the mirror each day.
I have had failures to be sure. As cliché as it sounds, they helped me grow.
Again, Mercyme sings it this way to the younger self:
…Or do I go deep
And try to change
The choices that you’ll make
‘Cause they’re choices
That made me….
Regrets? That’s a question each person has to answer. I do not make light of traumatic situations you may have faced or currently confront. Consider, however, your overall life journey. The people you have touched. The differences you have made and the legacy you will leave (and build each day). A culmination of all those choices. Some small. Some large. All help create the person you are becoming. Don’t be too quick to dismiss any of them. This does not excuse inappropriate behavior. It does look for lessons, though.
John Milton observed that “the mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”
I titled a song on my second CD, “Love My Life.” And old man speaks to a young person and shares:
Listen to what I say
Life’s too short to throw away
It’s filled with many threats
And too many do regret the life they’ve lived
But I choose to live my life instead.
Enjoy the entire recording by clicking below. (c) Steve Piscitelli. 2010. All rights reserved.
Video recommendation for the week:
Mercyme’s Dear Younger Me.
Make it an inspiring week and H.T.R.B. as needed.
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