A few weeks back I wrote a blog titled “Finding Your Happy Place.” I made the point that many things can drive us to distraction if we let them. My short list included: work stresses, relationship issues, economic woes, environmental concerns, health challenges, and political frustrations. These things (and more) can grind people down day after day. I then posed the question “Wouldn’t it be nice, if people could find a place—physically or emotionally—were they could back away from the stresses of life and recharge—even if for a few moments? A place that would bring a bit of peace—a slice of happiness. In other words, finding their own happy place!”
For this blog, I would like to pose a few random thoughts about how we can help co-workers, friends, and family members find (or maintain) their happy place. In no particular order:
- Brighten up the office—place flowers on your desk. Leave a flower on co-workers desk.
- Bring flowers home.
- Buy a cup of coffee or can of soda and share a few moments of conversation.
- Going to the mailroom? Pick up a package/mail for a colleague.
- Set a lunch date.
- Extend a sincere compliment.
- Send a congratulatory email about a recent accomplishment.
- Recognize an accomplishment in the next staff meeting.
- Send a birthday card–written in your hand and with a personal message. For managers, don’t delegate this to your assistant; do it yourself.
- Send a personal birthday greeting via email.
- Ask-listen-ask. That is, ask questions about the other person; listen to her answer; respond with another question about that person. The conversation is not about you.
- Send an anonymous thank you card acknowledging a certain contribution of the person.
- Talk–really talk–to the custodian, cafeteria cashier, parking lot attendant. Say thank you!
- Surprise someone–buy coffee for the person behind you in line.
- Squelch gossip.
- Respond to requests, voicemail, email in a timely and appropriate manner
- Give people their space.
Recognition and civility do not need to cost money or take lots of time. Thank you notes or pats on the back can have incredible results for the recipient—and the person extending the recognition.
What do you do?
© Steve Piscitelli and Steve Piscitelli’s Blog, 2010.