Seventy years ago, Marie and Dominic had dreams.
One reaching beyond and the other attempting to create a comfort zone.
As you read the beginning of this post, you might think it is a sad and dreary remembrance. It isn’t.
If my parents were still alive they’d be celebrating their 70th anniversary this month. But they aren’t.
My dad died when I was 16. A few months earlier, they had celebrated their 18th wedding anniversary. Eighteen years to a sophomore in high school seemed like an eternity. Like they had been married, you know, for seventy years or so. They were married longer than I had been alive, and it seemed they’d be married for another 18 and then another 18 and …. But they weren’t.
My father, an 8th-grade dropout during the Great Depression, had two qualities I remember: The ability to connect with people and his penchant to dream. As I think back at how he lived and the things he did (and did not do), he was motivated to create and live within a vision of a world bigger than he had been born into. But he got sidetracked and his dreams were always just out of reach. In short, when it came to where he wanted to go, he didn’t.
My mother was a hard-working operations manager at a trucking company. A high school graduate, she was the breadwinner in our family. The one who paid attention to the needed details. She did not take many risks. Possibly over compensating for my dad’s penchant for high stakes, she held her cards close. My mother helped me to understand that little steps are important. In fact, over the years I came to realize a larger lesson that no matter how small (or maybe even insignificant) a step might seem, it isn’t.
Seventy years ago, Marie and Dominic had dreams of their own. One reaching beyond a comfort zone, the other attempting to maintain a comfort zone. Each step they took represented, to them, an important movement toward a larger goal. I learned from them that achievement of large goals (dreams) requires consistent effort over the long haul. My life is the sum of the small and consistent choices I make and do each day. If I fail to pay attention and act with intention each day, then, as for those dreams reaching fruition, they won’t.
Thanks, Mom and Dad. Because of you, I will.
Video recommendation for the Week:
In this video clip from a presentation I delivered in Portland, OR, I make the argument for understanding what is non-negotiable in our lives. And I make the point that, “When the negotiables start taking control of your life, guess what they have become. Non-negotiable.” Thus derailing your dreams.
Make it a great week and HTRB has needed.
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