Have you been feeling a bit rushed—overwhelmed by all you have
in front of you? My suggestion is to remember that you do have
the choice to respond—even when others have made your plans a mess.
I am reminded often that I am a “work in progress.” During a writing session this past week, I re-read a passage I wrote a few years ago:
Two suggestions to guide your days to come:
*You will be confronted with situations that are not of your choosing.
Recognize that you have the choice on how you handle and respond to those situations.
*Living a life of wellness and balance is a lifestyle choice.
Embrace your ability to choose and live each day honestly, responsibly, and respectfully!
(Choices for College Success, 2e. Pearson Education. 2011)
At times, just like other people, I feel like I am losing control and my world is devolving into chaos. Currently, I am in the midst of a hectic professional schedule that includes travel for speaking engagements, a book revision, webinar preparations, and general day-to-day activities of keeping a business going.
Reality #1: It is all good! I am learning and growing. My business plan is working. And, I am meeting wonderful people along the way.
Reality #2: Every piece of this is my choice. True enough, some curves have been thrown my way. Other people have created situations that have presented challenges for me. They created the situations—I, however, must handle these situations.
On a recent road trip, I was talking to my wife while waiting for a connecting flight out of Denver. As I rattled on about all I had to do, I could feel my muscles tense and breathing quicken. I felt overwhelmed. The problem, at that moment for me was that I was drowning in the big picture.
Find your own RSS. While the long view is helpful, I know that if I only concentrate on the end result I end up overwhelming myself. What I needed to do was to stop, breathe, and break things down to their smallest components. For me, on that day, at that time, I broke it down into real simple steps: when the flight ends, get off the plane. Then find the rental car location. Load my gear into the car. Find the highway. Drive.
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One of the biggest lessons I have learned is to stay aware of what I am feeling and thinking. I have to listen to my body. This helps me to do a lot more responding rather than reacting. It is healthier. This allows me to embrace my ability to choose and live each day honestly, responsibly, and respectfully—for me and those I live and with whom I work. That is integrity to oneself.
Have you been feeling a bit rushed—overwhelmed by all you have in front of you? My suggestion is to remember that you do have the choice to respond—even when others have made your plans a mess. Focus on the healthiest, simplest, and most positive step. Then do it. Then repeat for the next step. Slow and steady will get you to your goal. You can pick up the pace as you feel more in control.
Back to the Denver airport…On that day I had to remember (with the help of my bride) my own mantra to choose well, live well, and be well. From this “work in progress”—those are good words to live by.
Enjoy your week—and H.T.R.B. as needed!
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I also tend to get overwhelmed with all the things I have going on. Don’t get me wrong I like to stay busy and the challenge and all but, while all of that is going on I sometimes forget to just stop and take a breath and take it all one step at a time.
Breathing is good! 🙂
I went threw a similar situation. I found my self all alone to raise three kids. I would cry at the thought of saying the rest of there lives. It seemed like an eternity. I had to stop that train of thought and just make plans from week to week. Once I did that I could see things more clear and It seemed more manageable. Your train of thought is very powerful. I see all tasks as being able to be completed.
Yes! Thoughts become words that become actions that create your destiny!
“Drowning in the big picture” is something I can really relate to. Sometimes knowing I get stressed easily, I still try to take on more responsibility than I can handle, ultimately becoming burned-out or over-whelmed looking at what`s going to happen later on down the road. At this point I am learning to take life in, in steps and tackle the obstacles in front of me and let tomorrow take care of tomorrow and use yesterday as it`s motivation.
Good points. Break the big issues/goals/dreams into small and doable steps. Keep moving forward.
After viewing this video, I found myself paying closer attention to my own response to feeling overwhelmed. I now take the advise given to you by your wife . It really helps to Stop, Breath, and take one step at a time . Professor Piscitelli, your a very motivational speaker I will add and follow you on twitter and any other sites that are available. You’ve been a real inspiration to me while on this new chapter in my life. Thanks
Thanks. We all need a reminder (me included) to respond and not react to events.
I remember you telling us about h.t.r.b in class and I’ve been using it lately when in stress… It helps. This blog kind of reminds me of using it in when in deep stress!
HTRB is a simple yet powerful reminder to respond to situations…don’t react! 🙂
This was interesting and helpful because sometimes I too feel stressed when I have some much to do and don’t know what to do. So now I know to respond and try to not react and to breath so thank you.
One step at a time! 🙂